Slut Walking Across America

 

Slut Walking Across America

  Some younger acquaintances of mine are into the "slut walk" thing - not really slut walking themselves, but virulently vocal about the right to be a slut or look like a slut. I don't argue with their right or desire. Be what you want. Be a slut or don't be a slut. I agree with the general premise of the slut walkers that how you dress or even act doesn't give anyone (think males) the right to violate your person. Or put another way rape is rape whether you're an innocent, naive, virgin or a prostitute.

  On the other hand, slut walking, slut dressing, or slut acting has some consequences, possibly unintended. If you (as a woman or as a man) put out that you're available, easy, indiscriminate, up for anything even if only on your own terms, there is a distinct, if not almost certain, perception that just about anything goes. Not rape, of course, but certainly a non-offending offer for participation in whatever the other person suggests. More simply put: don't be surprised at the reaction you get. Certainly don't get offended like "what do you think I am?" Reminds me of a guy who got slapped on his first date..well, never mind, this is a family newspaper.

  Here's another cleaner, true story. A long time ago I visited my father-in-law's mother in a small southwestern Virginia mountain town of about 5,000 people. My car was loaded with luggage and other valuables (not much at that time), but I didn't bother to lock the car. The little old lady (probably about 70 at the time) asked me why I didn't lock the car. "I trust people," I said. To which she promptly replied, "son, tempt not thy neighbor". I've locked my car since. I don't walk around with dollar bills hanging out of my pockets, either.

  That's something the slut walkers and slut walk supporters should take note. If perception is nine-tenths of reality, the reality is that how you act and even how you look is how you'll be perceived. Reality is also not over looking the elemental power of the sex drive. If you're a woman and feel that you want to command equality with male sexual drive, it would be a good idea to study the reality of that. Last time I checked there's a sexual difference between men and women. Most men I know like the idea of the free and unfettered sexual life style - at least until they get burned.

  Also, it might be good to look around for unintentional consequences such as disrespect for women (or the opposite sex). There's some evidence that respect for women by men is diminishing. Is it just a coincidence that young men (supported by some women) think it is ok to molest and violate a drunk, nearly comatose girl and put the pictures on the internet. That behavior is simply inexcusable and vile. But, is it a cause and effect issue? Is it a coincidence that 50 percent of white women have children without having a committed male partner and the percentage goes over 70 per cent for blacks? Isn't that the ultimate disrespect?

  Unfortunately, the public reaction has been to make heroes of so-called "single mothers". Well, these are pretty sad heroes. And I doubt that they believe they are heroes at all, but maybe victims of users or men who don't accept responsibility. On the other hand, responsibility cuts both ways.

  Of course, these (not necessarily the single mothers) are the same ones who insist that someone else pay for their birth control, provide condoms for their partners, and provide funds for the non-father-supported children, or sexually transmitted diseases. Look, from time to time everyone messes up. He or she needs forgiveness, even sympathy, and in most cases support - private and public. But, to promote a no-consequences lifestyle for everyone doesn't deserve anyone's support.

  And, by the way, regardless of slut walk or freedom to-do-anything women's movement, men are never freed from their individual responsibilities to act like decent and responsible human beings.

 
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